Toxic Sun Sign Relationships

 

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“This is your life and it’s ending one minute at a time.”

― Chuck Palahniuk, Fight Club

The mission of Toxic Sun Sign Relationships: How To Get Rid Of A Toxic Person Whatever Their Star Sign is to enable you to identify, deal with and eliminate toxic individuals who add no value to your life and actively sabotage it. You can see it as an instruction manual with a clear call to action. It draws on astrology, neuroscience, psychology and philosophy, repurposing proven techniques to empower you to deal with toxic influences in your life.

A toxic person is defined as someone who is continually and persistently bad for you to be around. They regularly manipulate and undermine you and take great joy in your misery whilst pretending to be your friend. Their presence is pernicious and injurious to your psychological and physical wellbeing. They think they have an inalienable right to provoke, pry and interfere in whatever you do. They delight in breaching any boundaries you have drawn in an attempt to deal with their unwanted presence or behaviour. They do not respect you – not at all, no matter what they say or appear to do to convince you otherwise.

There is obviously a difference between a wilfully toxic individual (hereafter referred to as a Toxic) and a person who exhibits toxic behaviour. Toxic behaviour won’t be the way the second person normally acts – they may be in a state of anger, depression, despair or grief when they behave in a toxic manner, and will simply be expressing how they feel at that point in time. They won’t always use that behaviour in a purposeful and exploitative manner.

The Toxic, however, is characterised by a series of behaviours, all of which are designed to manipulate you. A normal individual will usually see the error of their toxic behaviour, often be mortified and will invariably apologise and attempt to make things right with you. A Toxic will do none of these things and will ‘get off’ on trying to manipulate you by whatever means they can, only ‘apologising’ if it’s part of their scheme to dominate you.

Have you ever received a phone call and got that sixth sense that the person on the other end of the line is someone you would prefer not to have in your life? Do you let the phone ring or grudgingly, out of a sense of misplaced duty and being sociable, answer the caller? Then collapse into a profanity spewing jelly the moment the call has ended? Your Toxic is winning. You answered their call despite your reservations and now you are suffering the consequences.

Ever been in that situation when you’ve been strolling happily along the pavement, smiling away or whistling merrily? Then you notice someone in the distance, who makes your heart slide into the gutter; so potentially dancing with death, you cross the busy road to avoid them? Once again the Toxic wins. They’ve got to the point where they’re controlling your behaviour even though you’ve avoided their physical presence. It’s gone beyond the stage of not wanting to meet them – now you can’t even tolerate the anticipation of meeting them.

Walking into work, are you filled with a sense of impending menace and negativity as you worry about the effect your bullying boss or corrosive co-workers are having on you? Do you sometimes call in sick just to avoid them?

Do you ever receive an email and decide not to open it, as you just oh-so-do-not want to read the stream of banal, pedestrian and predictable vitriol? You are under the influence of a CyberToxic, who thinks they can attack you anytime, anyplace, and anywhere.

When you log onto your social networking sites, do you detect that a certain individual has been grubbing around, trying to find out as much about you as they can, so they can use this information to threaten or manipulate you later? Do they have a blog and do you ever check in to see what lies they are spreading about you just for malice or to big them up, or how they are publically emoting about you because of some perceived relationship that only exists in their mind?

At Christmas time, are you filled with dread and nausea as you receive the inevitable invitation to the annual family bash, where you know retribution, argument and bad feelings are the order of the day as the alcohol flows and everyone, inhibitions long gone, decides to tell the rest of family what they really think about you? Do you attend these festive events because it’s expected of you and you want to stake your claim to your inheritance, or because you genuinely enjoy meeting your corrosive kith and kin?

Perhaps the thought of someone who adds no value to your life makes you realise how obnoxious and vile their behaviour can be and that you’ll tolerate no more of it. You are now reaching the turning point, the point of no return.

The only ingredient missing is you taking action.

Welcome to the world of the toxic individual, someone you would prefer to avoid at all costs as they drain your energy and potentially make you feel awful about yourself. This may or may not be their intention. That’s not the issue here as their motivation is irrelevant when all that matters is the final outcome – the negative effect they continue to have on you.

Toxic people are a cancer of the soul that metastases the longer you allow them to remain in your life. Sometimes they can progress rapidly from simply being background noise level irritation to demoralising harassment and stalking, both of which are criminal activities in many jurisdictions. The longer you let them get away with their behaviour, the more intense it becomes and the more difficult it is to get rid of them. The danger exists so you need to act quickly and decisively.

Forewarned is forearmed. Bad things can happen to good people and exposure to a Toxic is a salutary example. That this has taken place is not your fault or any reflection on your character. It’s just something that has happened and, like any disease that can get worse, has to be dealt with in a forthright and effective manner.

This extensively researched book will help you with identifying, targeting and dealing with the Noxious Nine Toxic Types.

For example, you’ll learn about the Necrotic Narcissist, whose insistence on their own importance at the expense of yours can wear you down and leave you demoralised and disempowered by their continually wailing ‘me, me, me’ at the expense of ‘you’ mantra. You’ll encounter the Dream Destroyer, who can’t wait to tell you why anything you try to achieve will end in the ashes of failure and that it will all be your fault. The Black Cloud will be exposed, the type of Toxic who’ll spend all their time and energy leaching the life out of you, enshrouding you in their own misery and depression, never being happier than when you are down and demoralised.

Which leaves six more Toxic Types for you to explore.

These people could be your colleagues, bosses and fellow students, past friends, acquaintances, and ex-lovers, even members of your family. Or simply someone you’ve recently met who’s already crossing all of your boundaries and giving you that icky feeling of impending unpleasantness. You may not even have met them – they could turn out to be someone several thousand miles away who’s been watching your every move on a social networking site and taken exception to something about you.

The common denominator is how they make you feel and if you really want their presence in your existence to continue. Remember, it’s your life and it’s getting shorter by the second. It’s your choice who you allow into it and also who you don’t want as they provide no pleasure or support and undermine your wellbeing.

Being your ‘friend’ is not a basic human right – it’s something you extend to those who deserve it. Toxic people will sometimes try to justify their behaviour by getting emotionally incontinent and gushing about having their ‘needs met’ or ‘avoiding getting upset’. Well, your needs are paramount and they are best served by getting this toxic influence out of your life for good.

When people persistently and deliberately step over the line and become Toxic, you realise that you owe them no duty of care whatsoever, no matter what manipulative entreaties and behaviour they come up with. They’ll try anything they can to stay in your life, from low level manipulation sometimes accompanied by psychological or physical threats, to trying to get your friends on board, thereby tainting existing relationships with their neediness and attempts to make you feel guilty.

So do you want to waste any more time on toxic individuals? Maybe you should consider adopting a different and much more proactive strategy.

Why wait and passively surrender control to them? Negotiate with them – make them understand the error of their ways and how they should recalibrate their behaviour. Clearly and dispassionately outline the consequences if they fail to act on this. If that possibility is exhausted, just root them out and eliminate them from your circle of people. They’ve been given their chance and haven’t lived up to their commitment – now it’s time for you to deliver on your promise.

The objective of this book is to inform you how to identify the toxic individuals that contaminate your life.

It walks you through the twelve Zodiac signs and explores Moon signs (emotions), Mars signs (levels of aggression and likely triggers, self-centredness), Mercury signs (communication style and how the person processes information) and Venus sign (behaviour in romance including jealousy, controlling behaviour and jealousy). By studying this you get to know your enemy and know yourself.

The twelve Zodiac signs are mapped onto the Nine Toxic Types and the ten types of people most likely to become victims of Toxics. Toxic Sun Sign Relationships: An AstroCoach’s Guide To How To Deal with Toxic People also covers how easy the twelve Zodiac signs find it to get rid of a toxic person along with their likelihood of becoming victims of toxic behaviour or exhibiting it.

It outlines strategies for communicating your concerns to them and then describes the process for ejecting them from your life, physically, psychologically and emotionally. Once you’ve done this, you free up vital energies for doing things that you want to do and no longer need to pay any attention to them.

Comprehensive strategies are outlined for dealing with Toxics and eliminating them from your life. The issues of eradicating CyberToxics (the type that harass and stalk you via the Internet and various online devices) are explored in depth. It’s also clear that a Toxic may leave some psychological baggage even when you have discharged them from your life, so strategies for destroying any lingering toxic residue in your mind are discussed.

Also addressed is the contentious issue of whether or not you should don your military fatigues, tool up with your metaphorical weapons of choice, marshal your resources and engage in trench warfare with your Toxic adversary.

Toxic family members or colleagues, the types you currently can’t escape being physically exposed to, are covered. Sometimes clusters of Toxics confront you, and in this case, different techniques are required.

Once you are a Toxic-free zone, it’s important to ensure that you spend your time with the right people and ensure that another Toxic does not sneak into your life. So this book discusses the matter of choosing the right friends and working out when one may go rogue and turn out to be Toxic.

Although Toxics are rarely a laughing matter, some of this information is presented in a humorous light, which helps you to enjoy, remember and act. It can also put things into perspective and helps you remember that there is a world that is much richer and more interesting than many of us think. This also helps put the Toxic in their rightful place – permanently out of your life.

To find out more and get your free sample click here

Toxic Sun Sign Relationships: How To Get Rid Of A Toxic Person Whatever Their Star Sign is currently being updated and should be available in early April 2016.

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