Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Leo Suffer from Low Self-esteem?
While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Leo folk have low self-esteem. Does the flamboyant, look at me lion have low self-esteem? Do they surround themselves with sycophants to prop up a fragile ego?
Do they? You might think that the lion’s dedication to being centre stage indicates a neediness and lack of self-esteem. You might think that the lion is a needy wannabe monarch, and some of them are, but for the most part you’d be wrong. Sure, Leo is likely to surround themselves with loyal friends and admirers but they don’t dissolve into a wailing heap once those people depart. Leo is secure in the knowledge that these people can be replaced so the lion does not need to grovel, plead or put up with being dissed in order to keep these people on board. Leo cares less about the opinions of others than you might think. They are quick to write off the opinions of those who write them off. Does this denote a defensive reaction caused by low self-esteem? Maybe, maybe not – who cares so long as it works, thinks Leo. And work it usually does. Leo places a higher value on the opinions of members of Team Leo than those of the opposition. The continual ego boost provided from the members of Team Leo helps to build the Leo self-esteem. It also helps that Leo is a fixed sign and therefore unlikely to revise their opinions any time soon. Confidence in your decision making ability tends to keep self-esteem high. If Leo thinks they are great then due to their fixed nature they are unlikely to revise that opinion. Unfortunately the same applies if they’ve decided that they are ugly and useless!
Leo will also play to their strengths and will avoid situations where they are required to do something that they are not good at. In the event that that they are required to use a skill that does not come naturally they will try to get someone else to take on the task. They will value the talents of the person who can perform that task well, just as fellow fixed sign Taurus does, but they will not put themselves out trying to acquire those skills. They will regard those skills as useful but not skills that crème de la crème need or wish to have. Leo does not feel threatened by a lack of talent in certain areas.
Like the rest of us, Leo does like to be ridiculed or to be unfairly criticised but this could hardly be regarded as having low self-esteem. If made fun of Leo will avoid the person who made fun of them. This is perfectly healthy as far as Leo is concerned. They aren’t so desperate for company that they will allow themselves to be made fun off.
Leo is often assumed to be more desperate for approval and admiration than many of them really are. Sure approval is great but it can’t be just anyone’s approval. It has to be the approval of those who matter. This attitude goes a long way when it comes to keeping Leo’s self-esteem high.
Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Cancer Suffer from Low Self-esteem?
While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Cancer folk have low self-esteem. Cancer born folk do tend to be regarded as having low self-esteem. Many lack confidence in their inabilities and are cripplingly shy.
Criticism hurts very deeply and deep down the hapless Cancer often sees criticism or mockery when none is intended. Remarks that other signs might shrug off can wound the Cancer badly and cause them to withdraw into their shell. Unfortunately the ‘do not come near me’ vibes that the withdrawn Cancer then gives off will ensure that they are given a wide birth isolating the Cancer still further and allowing them plenty of time to brood on their perceived failings.
Cancer will do their best to avoid situations where their self-esteem is threatened and take great care when choosing friends and lovers. Only those people who boost Cancer’s self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves need apply when it comes to joining this elite club. Membership is subject to revision on a regular basis so friends and loved ones need to give the Cancer plenty of reassurance. Cancer people are more than capable of beating themselves up emotionally so do not need others to join in!
One area when the Cancer born person can really have self-esteem is in the relationship arena. Unfortunately many Cancer people will put up with all sorts of bad behaviour from a partner due to a desperate need to be loved and, often, a deep rooted feeling the Cancerian is unlovable and therefore needs to hold on tightly to whomever they can pair off with.
Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Gemini Suffer from Low Self-esteem?
While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Gemini folk have low self-esteem. Would we expect the sociable, flirtatious and quick witted Twins to have self-esteem issues? Are they really as supremely confident as they appear? Is their cheerful banter a mask to hide a crippling lack of confidence?
For many Gemini it isn’t and what you see is what you get. Many are perfectly confident in their ability to fit in with any group, shine at any social occasion and master any skill with ease. Should this not happen the resilient Twins usually pick themselves up again pretty quickly. Gemini does not usually stay floored for long. They also do their best to bolster the odds in their favour by choosing to hang out with the people who make them feel good.
There are, however, more than a few Gemini who do have low self-esteem and create a social butterfly-type personality to hide behind. Fearing rejection they never really run the risk of connecting with anybody closely enough to risk showing who they really are. Sometimes this is due to rejection at an early stage; Gemini is often a sassy precocious kid and not everyone appreciates inquisitive, intelligent and sometimes lippy children. Gemini kids can get bullied or ‘put in their place’ so often that they do begin to develop problems with self-esteem.
Gemini people may also get given a hard time by people who mistake the Gemini tendency to keep things ‘light’ for a lack of feeling on the Gemini’s part. This is unfair; Gemini folk are perfectly capable of experiencing strong emotions and frequently do. They just don’t discuss them with others that often. Because Gemini people are regarded as being devoid of feelings people can say very hurtful things to the Gemini born; things that they wouldn’t dream of saying to (as they would see it) more ‘sensitive’ souls. So once again Gemini’s self-esteem takes a battering!
Gemini people often feel misunderstood and so, when they find someone who really ‘gets’ them they can become emotionally dependent on that person. See my AstroCoaching for Gemini book for more on this. Those Gemini who do exhibit emotional dependency on friends and/or lovers would certainly be regarded as suffering from low self-esteem.
Toxic Sun Sign Relationships – Book Cover
Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Taurus Suffer from Low Self-esteem?
While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Taurus folk have low self-esteem. We’re told that they’re diffident and shy yet have supreme confidence in their ability to rise to the top of any organisation. Are we getting mixed messages here or are Taureans supremely confident in some areas of their lives but write themselves off in others?
When it comes to forging ahead in their career most Taureans have supreme confidence in their abilities. They are very realistic about the heights they can aspire to, the challenges they face and the sacrifices that they might need to make on their way to the top. But what about their personal as opposed to their professional lives?
Taurus people have the reputation for being shy but are they really? If so, are they shy because of low self-esteem? No; on both counts. Taurus susses someone out before committing to getting to know them, so they will often take their time before allowing others to get up close and personal. This is a great way of preserving that Taurean self-esteem. ‘Why waste your time on folk who are going to undermine you and trash your self-esteem?’ thinks the Bull. Like preceding sign Aries the Taurus-born person surrounds themselves with people who have proved themselves to be loyal and life enhancing. Like Aries the Bull can have their self-esteem undermined by a loved one, close friend or respected colleague but the Taurean usually guards against this by selecting their inner circle with the utmost care. They are also very realistic when it comes to knowing their strengths and weaknesses relative to other people’s strengths and weaknesses. They do not, as a rule, have unrealistic expectations, unrealistic views of their abilities or those of other people. They are usually supremely confident in their ability to identify their talents/strengths and those of others. This helps to guard against those unrealistic expectations that precede a crushing defeat and trashing of self-esteem.
It is unlikely that a colleague or casual acquaintance will undermine the Taurean’s self-esteem but a relationship break-up or barbed comments from a loved one can do this. At the very least the Bull will wonder how they could have made the mistake of letting such a person get close enough to inflict this level of damage.
Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Aries Suffer from Low Self-esteem?
While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; most people who know a little about Zodiac signs would expect an Aries to have very high self-esteem. Those folk who are irritated by people who appear to ooze confidence (and see the Aries-born as boastful braggarts) might even think that Aries, along with Leo and Sagittarius, has far too much self-esteem and could do with a bit of reality re-alignment! But let’s look a little closer shall we. Is Aries appearance of being supremely self-confident genuine or is it a mirage?
In reality it’s a little of both. Aries people do have times when their confidence is at a low ebb and they are often less confident in their looks, abilities etc. than they appear. They do, however, have a smart way of dealing with threats to their self-esteem. Firstly they surround themselves with loyal people who go out of their way to make Aries folk feel good about themselves. People who undermine Aries are ejected from Aries’ circle of friends pronto. If such people cannot be ejected e.g. toxic colleagues or family members then Aries will find creative ways to avoid them where possible. They might also do a bit of undermining of the offending party as well.
Aries will also play to their strengths and will avoid situations where they are required to do something that they are not good at. In the event that that they are required to use a skill that does not come naturally they will either try to get someone else to take on the task or they will write off the task as pointless and the skill as not worth having.
Is it possible to undermine Aries’ self-esteem? Yes, if they value your opinion enough. But you can rest assured that, like fellow Mars ruled sign Scorpio, Aries will pay you back and it won’t be pretty!
Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Flower Photo – Nettle Flower Photo – Friday Flower Photo
Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Flower Photo – Nettle Flower Photo – Friday Flower Photo
The nettle is associated with the Zodiac sign of Aries.
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Friday Flash Fiction – Beyond The Grave Part 2 of 2
My wedding to Caro was a simple affair without the fairy tale trimmings of my previous one. For Caro and I all that mattered was our love and we knew that our fairy tale would begin on our wedding night. How we longed for that night, the start of our new life together. For the first time in years I was truly happy.
We booked a romantic room with a four poster bed in a castle that was steeped in history. It did not occur to me that this was more to Alyssa (my first wife)’s taste than Caro’s yet the story behind the castle appealed to Caro too. A couple caught in delicto flagrante by the husband’s wife and castle guards threw themselves onto the rocks below rather than be executed exactly the type of tragedy my first wife went for. As Caro said, ‘If she was anything like Alyssa she’d have been furious at the couple having an easy death!’
Our wedding night was dark and stormy and I could almost imagine the couple hurling themselves through the slit in the castle wall and onto those wickedly sharp rocks below. We watched the Sea roil around the rocks and suppressed a shudder. I wanted to run as far from that hellish room as possible yet Caro seemed keen to stay. I’m not a superstitious man but I felt a malevolent presence in that room. Whatever it was hated us and was watching, waiting, biding its time. Maybe it was the drugs, maybe it was the alcohol but I was sure that Caro’s simple wedding dress was changing into the ethereal boho affair worn by my wife.
My mind’s ramblings were brought to a halt by the pop of a champagne cork and the site of a naked Caro advancing towards me with a glint in her eye. ‘Come on darling, let’s celebrate our first night together as man and wife in style!’ She led me the bed and began to undress me. Teasing and tantalising me in a way that Alyssa never could. Soon I could bear the dance of seduction no longer and forced her down on the bed, ready to explode within her.
I barely registered her scream as I entered her brutally and slapped her hard; my eyes were drawn to the wedding dress advancing towards me. For wearing it was Alyssa whose eyes locked onto mine. Her smile was one of cruelty. ‘You swore that you would wait for me to claim you again. You promised me that you would never love again, you lying cheat!’ she screamed. ‘And as for that heifer you’re f*cking …’
I felt Caro clawing at my face a look of terror etched on to hers. Had she seen the horror too? Suddenly Alyssa was under me clawing at my face and screaming like a banshee.’ I reached for the brass candle stick on the bedside table and began to smash it down on the creature’s face. Over and over I hit Alyssa’s face until nothing remained but a bloody pulp. I heard her ribs and skull crack and give way as I frenziedly beat the monster underneath me.
Then I became conscious of the malevolent watcher in the room. She smiled at me. ‘Oh dear, look what you’ve done now, how are you going to explain that one Angus? Who’d have thought that fat cow had so much blood in her!’
I screamed in rage and torment as the door crashed open and several armed police ran in. As they tasered me I remembered how hard I had fought to have the death penalty reintroduced in this godforsaken land.