Low self-esteem? Which Zodiac signs are the most likely to help you build your self-esteem ?

Low self-esteem – which Zodiac signs are the most likely to help you build your self-esteem ?

If you’re lacking in self-esteem or just lack confidence there are certain signs who are rather intimidating to be around. These include the self-confident, gung-ho, have a go at anything Fire signs (Aries, Leo and Sagittarius) and the intellectually confident, socially adept and popular Air signs (Gemini, Libra and Aquarius).

Of the Fire signs Leo is the most gentle with those who have low self-esteem. Aries and Sagittarius just get bored with those who lack the confidence or ability to keep up and both avoid those they see as ‘needy’ like the plague! Leo who has a tendency to need to be needed may take a person with low self-esteem on as a pet project but unless the person with low self-esteem makes progress the Lion will tire of them. The only exception to this is those Leos who need to be hero-worshipped all the time but, if truth be told, not every person with low self-esteem is into making others feel great.  Sometimes they are into making others feel as insecure as they are. As the saying goes ‘misery loves company’!

When it comes to the Air signs you can forget it. They all give the needy and downhearted a wide birth. Like the fire signs they much prefer upbeat people who aren’t hard work. Libra is likely to be the most gentle but still won’t reach out and get involved.

Earth signs Virgo and Capricorn are not for those lacking in self-esteem but Taurus is a possibility. Taurus will go out of their way to build up a loved one’s self-esteem and will take great pleasure in doing so. They are the Zodiac’s masters when it comes to recognising and valuing the talents of others, so if there’s something great about Taurus will make sure that you know it! The Taurean may, however, get fed up if they feel that someone is making no effort to improve their self-esteem. The Bull is usually a supportive and loving soul but does expect to see people making an effort to ‘sort themselves out’ as the Taurus would see it.

Now, what about the water signs? These guys are regarded as the Zodiac’s emotional empaths, so are they likely to take on someone with low self-esteem? And, if they do, will the results be what the person with low self-esteem would wish for? Scorpio would be the most high-risk of the water signs because they do not hold back when it comes to criticising others (or themselves for that matter). They also don’t like negative people – it might be catching, so will avoid those who are feeling down unless they are in a mood when they want to see everybody suffer. This event is much rarer than Scorpio-bashers would like to believe! The only exception to Scorpio’s rule of avoiding negative people is when a partner is having a bout of low self-esteem in which case Scorpio will do their best to life their partner’s spirits.

Cancer and Pisces will both do their best to nurture and support someone with low self-esteem unless that person has hurt them badly in which case it’s pay-back time. Yes, even the saintly Piscean is capable of exacting revenge and is as effective at doing so as the Zodiac’s revengemeister, Scorpio. Of the Water signs, Pisces and Cancer are best able to empathise with folks who have low self-esteem as they are likely to have periods of suffering from it themselves. Both will probably cut someone with low self-esteem more slack than the other Zodiac signs unless that person tries to boost their self-esteem by undermining the Cancerian or the Pisces’ sense of self-esteem.

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How to Build Someone Else’s Self-Esteem

How to Build Someone Else’s Self-Esteem

Many people have at least one friend who exhibits the classic signs of low self-esteem. Those signs including being needy, constantly looking for reassurance, becoming defensive when asked for an opinion, or being constantly anxious. There are many signs of low self-esteem but these are the most common. So, as a friend of a person with low self-esteem, how do you build them up? How do you help someone build their self-esteem? Read on to find some strategies.

Build Self-Esteem through Awareness

The first thing you have to do before building up someone’s self-esteem is understand that their feelings are very real. As much as you may think they are over exaggerating their feelings and emotions, they are not. These feelings are legitimate and really influence the way that they interact with the world. If you are aware of their feelings, you can give them the attention that they need. People with low self-esteem need to know that people sincerely care.

Build Self-Esteem through Compliments

One of the easiest ways to help someone build their self-esteem is to give them sincere compliments. It is one of the easiest things to do. Do you like that person’s outfit? Tell them. Did they do a good job on something? Tell them. Do you generally like something about their personality? Tell them. That kind of reassurance helps build the self-esteem of people who need it.

Build Self-Esteem through Inclusion

Another way to help build a person’s self-esteem is to include them in your activities. Those with self-esteem issues are not always shy. That is a common misconception. Feeling like they are a part of a group is a great way to help boost their self-confidence. Invite them to watch a movie with you and your friends. Invite them for dinner and drinks. Invite them to a backyard barbecue. No matter the occasion, if you enjoy their presence, invite them along.

There are many different ways to help build someone’s self-esteem. But helping them build it through awareness of their feelings, compliments, and through inclusion are three of the easiest ways to help. Self-esteem issues affect both men and women of all ages. The most important thing you can do to help is to be sincere in your thoughts and actions. The worst think you can do is to let them know you are only trying to help out of pity.

Build Self-Esteem through Validation

Click on the links below to find out what each sign needs to feel validated:

What Aries Needs To Feel Validated

What Taurus Needs To Feel Validated

What Gemini Needs To Feel Validated

What Cancer Needs To Feel Validated

What Leo Needs To Feel Validated

What Virgo Needs To Feel Validated

What Libra Needs To Feel Validated

What Scorpio Needs To Feel Validated

What Sagittarius Needs To Feel Validated

What Capricorn Needs To Feel Validated

What Aquarius Needs To Feel Validated

What Pisces Needs To Feel Validated

To find out more read my book Sun Sign Relationships … An AstroCoach’s Guide To How Each Sun Sign Dates, Relates And Communicates. Click on this link to find out more and to get your free sample!

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Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Pisces Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Pisces Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Pisces folk have low self-esteem. Is Pisces slow to express their opinions because they fear ridicule and rejection? Do they put up with jerks who treat them badly because they are terrified of being alone?

There are Pisces who will drift in and out of relationships rather than be alone and who will put up with any amount of abuse to avoid rejection. Of all the Water signs rejection hits the Pisces the hardest, which can lead to them constantly trying to please and appease others rather than looking after number one. It can take the Piscean a lifetime to grasp the concept of ‘enlightened selfishness’ even though the Piscean is smart enough to ‘get’ that they should not be the one who is always the giver in relationships. This realisation leads to the Piscean getting frustrated with themselves if they are in the awful position of knowing someone is constantly taking advantage of them but being too scared of being alone to do anything about it. The Pisces also tends to avoid confrontation which can lead to them being pushed thereby further lowering the self-esteem. Pisces will often give too much importance to how others think and feel at the expense of their own mental well-being.

Sometimes the Piscean’s need for love, peace and reassurance can lead to them coming across as weak and needy which often leads to rejection. Rejection that further dents the Piscean self-esteem thus creating a vicious circle where the Pisces gets more clingy and needy as they get hit by rejection after rejection. This is not helped by the tendency that some Pisces have to be rather self-pitying causing others to avoid them or make some rather barbed observations.

Additionally Pisceans can have a tendency to go get depressed which isn’t great for self-esteem. The Pisces can end up in a position where they wallow in a sea of self-criticism and self-recrimination which makes them depressed which makes them criticise themselves even more.  Pisces may be regarded as living in a dream world but sometimes their dream world is more of a nightmare than a land of rainbows and butterflies.

Poor, poor Pisces – does this mean that they are condemned to a life that is forever blighted by low self-esteem issues? No, not all.  In spite of my earlier words the outlook for the Piscean isn’t bleak at all. They just need to cut themselves the same slack that the cut the rest of us. They need to show the same tolerance and loving compassion to themselves that they show to the rest of us. Pisces, more than any other sign, can see what makes a person great. They can see something wonderful in all of us. The only person that they miss seeing something wonderful in is themselves which is a shame. Pisces folk really do need to learn to love themselves as much as they love the rest of humanity. They need to learn to be as compassionate towards themselves as they are towards the rest of us. Those Pisces that have learned to do this are well on the way to developing healthy self-esteem.

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Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Aquarius Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Aquarius Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Aquarius folk have low self-esteem. Certainly they can lack self-confidence when young and one of this sign’s spiritual challenges is to develop greater self-confidence so that they can make an even greater impact on the world. But does a lack of self-confidence automatically mean that the Aquarian has low self-esteem? No it does not. Although the words self-confidence and self-esteem are often used interchangeably they are not the same.

Self-confidence refers to how you feel about your ability. Self-esteem refers to how you feel about yourself – naturally it includes how you feel about your abilities but includes many other factors. This means that a person who lacks self-confidence in certain areas may still have healthy self-esteem.  Of course building self-confidence helps build self-esteem and one area where the Aquarian usually has plenty of self-confidence is the intellectual arena. Most Aquarians rate their intellectual abilities very highly. They also take a great deal of pride in their charitable and humanitarian activities.

Whether the Aquarian has high or low self-esteem often depends on how comfortable they are with being seen as ‘different’ or ‘out there’. Many Aquarians thrive on being seen as different from the herd and take great pride in being seen as unconventional and cutting edge. There are also plenty of Aquarians out there who genuinely don’t give a monkey’s about how other folk view them.  Nope, it’s not a defence mechanism; they really don’t care. Other Aquarians, however, find being misunderstood or seen as odd somewhat distressing which can lead to self-esteem issues.

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Friday Felis Catus Photo – Catsana 3: The Lazy Leg Over – Cat Yoga

Friday Felis Catus Photo – Catsana 3: The Lazy Leg Over – Cat Yoga

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Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Leo Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Leo Flower Photo – Heliotrope Photo – Friday Flower Photo

Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Leo Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Leo Flower Photo – Heliotrope Photo – Friday Flower Photo

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Heliotropes are associated with the Zodiac sign of Leo.

To find put more about which plants and flower belong with which Zodiac sign take a look in Zodiac Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign follow this link to find out more and get your free sample. Also take a look at Zodiac Sign Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign (click here to find out more and get your free sample) and Zodiac Sign Flowers Photobook – A Collection of Flower Photographs for Each Sun Sign Vol. 1 (to find out more and get your free sample click on this link).

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Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Capricorn Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

Which Zodiac Signs Suffer from Low Self-esteem? Does Capricorn Suffer from Low Self-esteem?

While there is more to a person’s astrology than their Sun sign; we can use simple Sun sign astrology to take a guess as to whether Capricorn folk have low esteem. If one takes a somewhat reserved, conventional nature to be an indicator of low self-esteem then one might assume that the Capricorn person has low self-esteem. The Capricorn hates to be mocked, embarrassed or caught out and does not go out of their way to draw attention to themselves but does this mean they have low self-esteem? Does the fact that they take a while to open up and trust people indicate a lack of self-esteem?

This really depends on the Capricorn. Many start with low self-esteem due to an overbearing, critical and or absent father but it’s what happens next that holds the key to Capricorn’s self-esteem. Do they take themselves at their parent’s valuation or do they undo the damage caused by steadily achieving more and more with each year that passes. Many Capricorns build their self-esteem by steadily progressing up the career ladder. The more they accomplish and the more plaudits they get the better they start to feel about themselves. Not only do they accrue material status and the trappings of success they also begin to accumulate personal power and influence.  They learn that they have the social skills to fit into the organisation that they’ve joined and to network with people in the organisational levels above. Many Capricorns either marry up or marry someone who is as keenly ambitious as they are. Being able to do these things should give them a healthy sense of self-esteem, right?

In many cases it does. Capricorn often develops a healthy sense of self-esteem as they grow older (see Capricorn gets better with age) and will often go out of their way to help others develop a healthy sense of self-esteem too. Many Capricorns, having attained wealth and status, will go onto develop a philanthropic steak (see the Zen of Capricorn). So far, so good but do all Capricorns find that their self-esteem improves with age?

Unfortunately not there are those unfortunates who seem destined to take themselves at their parent’s valuation of them no matter how far in the past that devastating assessment was delivered. No matter how many self-help books they read and no matter how much work they do on themselves they still seem to revisit the past by hooking up with the type of people who deliver the same crushing blows as the original parent (usually father) delivered. Intellectually they know they are doing this but emotionally they don’t seem to be able to break free. Some of them even feel that anyone who likes or respects them is a worthless loser. They go on craving the love and/or respect of the people who treat them like dirt.

In addition, Capricorns are often their harshest critic and as a result of this tendency (shared with Virgo and Scorpio) to home in on their perceived flaws can lead to Capricorns losing sight of what is great about them. This striving for perfection can lead to self-esteem issues if taken to excess.

When it comes to developing healthy self-esteem Capricorn has quite a challenge. If their father has been harsh and critical it can take a life-time for Capricorn to silence that inner critic who has their father’s voice. If they have had an absent father and had to take on too much responsibility it can take years for them to see that any perceived failings at such a young age were due to the Capricorn being too young to take on an adult role and not due to their being a worthless or useless individual. The same applies to the heroic father that the Capricorn sometimes lives in the shadow of. Sure, he might have been a prince among men but that doesn’t mean that you aren’t equally worthwhile.

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A Clue To Next Week’s Poll

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Taurus had this meditation thing licked!

 

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Which Zodiac Sign Is The Most Vain Poll

Which Zodiac Sign Is The Most Vain?

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New Year, New You Birthday Resolutions for Libra

New Year, New You Birthday Resolutions for Libra

Astrologically the best time to make your New Year’s Resolutions isn’t New Year’s Day as many of us understand it. It is our own New Year’s Day; the day when the Sun returns to the place that it was at the time of our birth otherwise known as our birthday. This is a time when many of us do review what we have done to date and make a commitment to ourselves that (if things are not as we wish them to be) this year will be different. On our birthday we often decide how we want things be in the coming year and if we choose to make a resolution to accomplish something we are more likely to succeed than if we make a resolution at a time that has less personal significance for us.

Now when it comes to making birthday resolutions we are more likely to be successful if we pick resolutions that fit in with who really are as opposed to going for one that we think we ‘should’ make.

Why not resolve to become more like to like your Sun sign? Why not pick a few of those wonderful Sun sign strengths and character traits that you have waiting for you to develop, and develop some of them further? Why not play to your strengths and make some resolutions and goals that you will make you feel fulfilled when you hit them? How do I know that you will feel fulfilled when you become more like your Sun sign? Take a look at the blog manifesto for the answer to that one!

Developing your Sun sign strengths will make for more lasting results than trying to stick to a New Year’s resolution that is at odds with you really are. Let’s face it Aries is going to find sticking to a resolution to be less impatient much harder than resolving to be more assertive or to set up their own business. That’s not to say that developing your Sun sign strengths is always going to be easy, sometimes it will be rather challenging, but the results will be both satisfying and long lasting.

So with this in mind I am making a few Birthday Resolution suggestions based on your Sun sign. There is one Bithday Resolution suggestion that applies to all the Sun signs and that’s to love your Sun sign. Be proud to be a member of Team Aries, Team Taurus, Team Gemini, Team Cancer, Team Leo, Team Virgo, Team Libra, Team Scorpio, Team Sagittarius, Team Capricorn, Team Aquarius or Team Pisces. Have a look at some of the forums that are devoted to one specific Sun sign in order to connect with people who are the same Sun sign as you. Find out what makes them (and you) fabulous!

Rather than suggest you make Birthday Resolutions to deal with your Sun sign’s negative traits I’m going to suggest that you make New Year’s Resolutions that will bring out your Sun sign’s positive traits. The more you express those the less likely you are to express those nuisance negative traits that hold you back.

So what talents and traits might Libra resolve to make the most of?

New Year, New You. Birthday Resolutions For Libra

Virgo is usually into perfecting themselves so will be looking to make Birthday Resolutions that fit in with this drive. This is one of the few Sun signs where a resolution to get healthy will put them fully in touch with their Sun sign nature, so there will plenty of motivation to keep going until the desired result is achieved.

Virgo is great at analysis and should ensure that their lives are full of opportunities to make use of this great talent. A worthwhile resolution would be to perfect the ability to know when analysing becomes nit-picking or an excuse for procrastinating.  Sometimes one can analyse a situation to death and find oneself no further forward. Sometimes it’s better just to make a decision and stick with it rather than spending too long striving to come up the perfect answer. Learn to know when you do not have enough data to draw logical conclusions about what is going on, why someone is acting the way that they are and what is the best course of action to take. Let’s face it people and their feelings often don’t lend themselves to left brained rational analysis.

Virgo is usually great at seeing what could be improved or what needs to be changed and that includes their nearest and dearest. One great Birthday Resolution would be learn how to give constructive criticism rather than just criticism! That way you’ll get plenty of that appreciation that you so often miss out on!

Virgo often shows their love by doing practical things to help others out, so ensure that you have plenty of opportunities to do this. For example you might make A Birthday Resolution to help your child if they’re struggling with a homework assignment or you might help people who have literacy problems to understand any documents that they receive or to fill in forms.

Most Virgos are superb at time management, scheduling and organising others. If you have yet to develop those talents make a Birthday Resolution to do so in 2014.

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