Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Pisces Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Pisces Flower Photo – Wisteria Flower Photo

Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Pisces Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Pisces Flower Photo – Wisteria Flower Photo

 

Pisces zodiac sign flower photo wisteria

Wisteria is associated with Pisces.

To find put more about which plants and flower belong with which Zodiac sign take a look in Zodiac Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign follow this link to find out more and get your free sample. Also take a look at Zodiac Sign Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign (click here to find out more and get your free sample), Zodiac Sign Flowers Photobook – A Collection of Flower Photographs for Each Sun Sign Vol. 1 (to find out more and get your free sample click on this link) and Zodiac Sign Flowers Photobook – A Collection of Flower Photographs for Each Sun Sign Vol. 2 (to find out more and get your free sample click on this link). To find out which flowers are associated with Pisces check out Pisces Zodiac Sign Flowers Photo Book (click on the link to find out more and get you free sample).

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0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 4 of 4

0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 4 of 4

If everything can be taken away, you have a number of responses. If you’ve prepared yourself mentally, you’ll realise that this is has always been an option as life is inherently unpredictable.

You’re working on the ultimate short-term contract with no guaranteed benefits. So don’t get too attached or emotionally engaged and just recognize and enjoy it for what it is. Embrace it while you can, be mindfully aware and engaged but don’t think that it will last forever.

Some people are savvy enough to address this possibility and confront it head on.

They use a technique called the Premeditation of Evils to work out the worst case possible scenario and how they’d deal with it.

Lost your job – get another one or try something different. Partner waltzed off with their yoga instructor – hopefully they’ll get the spiritual enlightenment (and toned physique) they always wanted whilst you look for someone more suitable. Stock market crashed and your pension wiped out – well, perhaps there’s enough money to backpack around South East Asia then see what happens. Your female Bengal cat named Ayesha come back and birthed ten kittens by different tomcats – maybe you could run a cat sanctuary.

This way, you’re better prepared as you’ve done a mental rehearsal and visualization. This technique isn’t something practitioners dwell on or engage in all the time – maybe just for a few minutes to acquaint themselves with all possibilities and work out the best response. You’re not looking to be morbid or to catastrophize – that’s what Toxics excel at.

If you’re going to adopt a more mindful, engaged but slightly detached view of life, you’ll:

  1. a) become more aware of how quickly time passes and that you have a finite amount left – get a metronome with the beater shaped like a scythe to remind yourself occasionally.
  2. b) become more selective about who and what you allow or attract into your life, thus focusing on what adds value.
  3. c) reject and exclude things that are of no benefit to you, things that detract from your enjoyment of life.
  4. d) realise that you can walk away from situations, contexts and people that are no good for you. This may take some planning and effort, but you have every right to do so. You’re pulling your own strings and there’s no celestial puppeteer responsible for your actions, right?

Now, some people will object to the very notion that you may elect to walk away. You’ll get accusations of being selfish, not looking out for others, being irresponsible and so on. You may weigh these arguments and look at the agendas of those who make them (and whether or not those people and their arguments have any relevance or validity).

You’ll also realise that when you are being more selective about what you want in your life, you’ll examine how much you want to invest in relations with others and whether that investment is worth the expenditure of energy, both psychologically and emotionally.

You also have a responsibility to them as fellow travellers in this wonderful and unpredictable life. So, although you may sometimes feel the need to cut and run, that may not be the most appropriate option at the time – especially if you’ve chosen these people and created expectations on both sides (and not had them foisted on you).

Walking away from Toxic people is one of the most effective ways of getting your life back on track. You may also wish to walk away from toxic contexts (a workplace that is bad for your physical and psychological health) or even the country in which you live, if you feel that there are more conducive opportunities elsewhere.

Sometimes being selfish, i.e. acting entirely in accordance with your own interests and your own nature, is your only viable life choice.

Sure, you may need to make provision to deal with whatever responsibilities you’ve accumulated over the years, but this can be viewed as a series of practical steps or challenges that need to be surmounted to get you to where you think or feel that you want to be.

So sit down, enjoy your favourite libation. Look around you, at the life you’ve created, all the stuff that acts as the backdrop to it. Is it a keeper, should you mod it, or should you press your pedal to the metal?

Or, if you don’t want to go to those extremes, what minor changes can you start to make to get things closer to what and where you want to be?

To find out more about how to deal with a toxic person take a look at the How To Deal With ToXiCs Combat Manual ebook, which is an upgraded, harder hitting and expanded version of the How To Deal With A Toxic Person ebook. Click on the links to find out more and get your free sample.

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Cartoon – Death And The Maiden

Cartoon – Death And The Maiden

Cant Live Without You Cartoon

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0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 3 of 4

0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 3 of 4

It can’t apply to everything, naturally and isn’t for the mainstream mind. Some people would find the idea literally terrifying as it would threaten their sense of self, which is largely established on what they own, where they live, the car they drive, job they do, trophy partner and whatnot. They have the neighbours and the peer group to impress.

Take away all their stuff and what’s left of them?

After all, what’s life about if not to buy stuff you neither want nor need and probably can’t really afford, to impress people you don’t know or like, who couldn’t care less?

If you have a house, mortgage, kids and so on, it’s highly impractical and probably immoral to shoot off in 60 seconds. Unless you really want to walk away from it all and be considered a douchebag and incur a number of financial and legal consequences.

And even if you’re footloose and fancy free, cheerfully devoid of responsibility and ties, events can sometimes conspire against you. Bro, if you impregnate a chick, your ‘gone in 60’ is seriously compromised, and unless both of you can work something out, you’ll have at least a sixteen year financial commitment for your five minutes of fun. But you always wanted kids, right?

Nevertheless, if you could really be ‘gone in 60’, what would you retain in your life? Where would you start pruning?

In the movie, ‘Skyfall’, the anti-Bond Silva makes the following speech, giving an exposition about the deserted island on which they stand:

It tells a story, doesn’t it? They left the island so quickly, they couldn’t decide what to take, what to leave, what was important. I think this everyday reminds me to focus on the essentials. There’s nothing. Nothing superfluous in my life. When a thing is redundant, it is eliminated.’

He then challenges Bond to a shooting contest (with dueling flintlocks, naturally), waged over a bottle of 50 year old Macallan whiskey, and proceeds to shoot his ex-lover in the head. If you’ve seen the movie, you’ll know how well this is all played, and if you haven’t, and hope for a happy ending, well, you’ll just have to watch it.

If you’re interested in philosophy and have a cursory acquaintance with Stoicism, you’ll be aware that this school believes that everything you have is on loan and  you just enjoy temporary custodianship. It can be taken away from you at anytime. People you care for, property, possessions, your reputation, health and so on.

The only thing you can control is how you respond to what happens. It helps to know what is within your control and what isn’t, which is why wisdom is considered a key virtue.

Peoples lives can change in an instant when they are stripped of everything they have, everything that they think defines them. People in this situation either manage to rebuild themselves and flourish (oftimes, those who have experienced such things have said this is the best thing that ever happened to them as it helped them rebuild their lives and they’re grateful for the that opportunity).

Or, alternatively, they go under.

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0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 2 of 4

0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 2 of 4

Time that you spend with people who add no value to your life can never be recovered. If you view time as money, you’re probably in deficit with a number of individuals, if you haven’t chosen your friends and acquaintances wisely.

If you stop to chat to a senior citizen, sometimes the subject gets to downsizing and moving to a smaller property. The kids have left, and maybe a partner is no longer present (either dead, in a care home, or having run off with someone else), and the large house is getting unmanageable.

The remark ‘but what about all my stuff, it won’t fit into a smaller place,’ is often voiced.

‘Why not just give it away or make a bonfire of the lot of it,’ you helpfully respond. ‘How much of that stuff do you actually use, how much of it is kept just for sentimental value?’

‘Damn’, you muse. ‘I’d be a most awesome decluttering coach.’

Your reverie is interrupted by a thud and a series of gasps.

Once you’ve defibrillated them enough to continue the conversation, they begin to warm to the theme.

Sure, much of what we accumulate may have some historicity – it might remind you of who you were with, from whence you got it, or even the short term dopamine rush you got from the purchase. Some shoppers are hooked on buying stuff as much as drug addicts are hooked to crack cocaine – the same parts of the brain are activated (say hi, nucleus accumbens). Why else would you queue in the freezing cold for several nights to pick up the latest mobile phone?

However, that doesn’t mean it’s a keeper.

If said possession spontaneously caught fire and was reduced to a pile of ash or melted plastic, would you really miss it that much? Would you wake up at night in a cold sweat because your Ikea Billy bookshelf was no longer there to prop up various aesthetic or emotional needs in your life, or store your parent’s Readers Digest condensed books collection?

Hardcore minimalists get away with, say, thirty items in total. Clothes, gadgets, cookware and so on. Digital nomads, who spend great gobbets of their lives moving around from country to country doing interesting freelance techy stuff, are very selective about what they own. Their lifestyle choices preclude carrying a load of stuff around with them.

Some people are defined by how stripped down their choice of apparel is, so much that it becomes their personal brand.

Idris Elba’s eponymous character in the series ‘Luther’ lives in a sparse flat with a clothes rack containing several of his trademark overcoats. Einstein had a wardrobe of the same clothes because he chose to focus his brainpower elsewhere. Jeff Goldblum’s character in ‘The Fly’ has the same design aesthetic.

Steve Jobs repeatedly wore a black Miyake mock turtleneck, blue Levi 501 jeans and New Balance sneakers as a minimalist creative corporate uniform that was a given (and applauded) at every Apple new product presentation. And just one more thing – his successor Tim Cook wears not dissimilar attire.

Stripped to the max minimalists go an even more Spartan route and use the ‘gone in 60 seconds’ ploy (cue Vin Diesel revving up a badass car).

They don’t allow anything into their life – possessions, people etc. – that they wouldn’t be prepared to walk out on in 60 seconds or less. Now that’s a philosophy predicated on being highly selective and very emotionally detached.

Or some might argue they have commitment issues.

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0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 1 of 4

0-60 or What Would You Take With You? Part 1 of 4

‘Don’t let your happiness depend on something you may lose.’

– C.S. Lewis

Fancy trying a few thought experiments, the objective of which is to work out what’s most important to you, given a specific set of circumstances?

Let’s say you come back from work to find that your house is burning down.

You can make one trip into the burning building and save whatever really matters to you. You dash in to rescue your partner, mother-in-law, kids, pets (maybe not necessarily in that order), and if fortune favours you, grab your mobile phone and some money.

With this, and assuming there’s no serious injury to anybody, you can start to rebuild your life. The people and things that are truly important have been saved, and with your mobile (which contains all your key data and financial contacts) you can negotiate with your insurers and arrange a hotel or other temporary accommodation whilst everything is resolved.

What will your overall view of the situation be, once you’ve got over the shock and felt elated to be alive and to have got out in one piece (you might even have a TV crew interviewing you as the ‘hero’ of the moment)?

Will you collapse in grief at having lost all that ‘stuff’ or will you perceive an opportunity to revitalize your life with new things and experiences?

You may actually be pleased at the loss of some things that you realise were nothing more than clutter that you’d invested some modicum of sentiment in. That hat stand from your maiden aunt that you could happily have thrown on last November’s bonfire, the only thing stopping you was that you feared being written out of her will, for example.

Say you lost around ninety five percent of your belongings, how many of them would you bother to replace? What value does what you own add to your life? Note – this also applies to the people you know and sometimes feel that you have to put up with.

But you could see that train of thought coming, right?

What if you never really liked the house and all that stuff anyway – what have you lost and more importantly, what could you potentially gain? Note – this assumes that you aren’t a pyromaniac and didn’t burn the house down in the first instance.

Another scenario.

You’ve crossed a drugs baron or mafia don by testifying against them and are soon to find yourself living in a small town in Ohio under witness protection. There’s a tasty price on your head, which you find somewhat flattering during those moments of the day that are not consumed by sheer existential terror and dashing to the toilet.

You have five minutes before the bad mofos turn up with shotguns and assault rifles. So you’ve got to fill a suitcase of essentials, and then the FBI will whisk you to a secret location where, fate willing, you won’t wake up in the morning to find a horse’s head on your blood drenched pillow.

What would you take?

The same principle would apply if you won a round the world trip but could only take hand luggage and have a few minutes to pack.

Exercises like these are entertaining and for some people inspiring, because they encourage you to concentrate on what’s essential to you, thus providing a degree of clarity and lucidity.

If you walk around your domicile, you’ll most likely find a number of things that have outlived their use, or, even more regrettably, haven’t been used at all. You may or may not like these things, or possibly haven’t thought about them as they’ve been there for a while and you’re used to them.

They represent an opportunity cost.

They’ve devalued since you bought them and may be worth nothing now (or just a fraction of what you paid), so you get irked by thinking about what else you could have done with the money.

It’s the same with people.

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Compilation Post – Use It Or Lose It:What Talents Do The 12 Zodiac Signs Need To Use?

Intro

Use it or lose it – What talents does Aries need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Taurus need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Gemini need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Cancer need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Leo need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Virgo need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Libra need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Scorpio need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Sagittarius need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Capricorn need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Aquarius need to use?

Use it or lose it – What talents does Pisces need to use?

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Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Taurus Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Taurus Flower Photo – Iris Photo

Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Taurus Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Taurus Flower Photo – Iris Photo

Taurus zodiac sign flower iris

The iris is associated with Taurus.

To find put more about which plants and flower belong with which Zodiac sign take a look in Zodiac Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign follow this link to find out more and get your free sample. Also take a look at Zodiac Sign Flowers – Flowers And Plants For Each Sun Sign (click here to find out more and get your free sample), Zodiac Sign Flowers Photobook – A Collection of Flower Photographs for Each Sun Sign Vol. 1 (to find out more and get your free sample click on this link) and Zodiac Sign Flowers Photobook – A Collection of Flower Photographs for Each Sun Sign Vol. 2 (to find out more and get your free sample click on this link). To find out which flowers are associated with Taurus check out Taurus Zodiac Sign Flowers Photo Book (click on the link to find out more and get you free sample).

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The Pros & Cons of Positive Bias Part 4 of 4

The Pros & Cons of Positive Bias Part 4 of 4

As promised I am now going to focus on some of the major benefits of cultivating a healthy dose of positive bias. For a start focusing on our loved (or even not so loved one’s) better points helps strengthen our relationships with them rather than encouraging us to give up when we are going through an unfortunate phase. It has been suggested that the marriages/long term relationships that work the best are those when each partner sees the other through rose tinted glasses (or maybe even beer goggles!).

We also find it easier to motivate ourselves to hit our goals if we apply positive bias to 1) our abilities and therefore likelihood of hitting them & 2) how great life will be/feel when we’ve hit our goal.

Applying positive bias to our current lives helps us to develop that ‘attitude of gratitude’ so beloved of PD gurus! Let’s face it it’s easier to be grateful for what we have if we encourage ourselves to see what we do have in a positive light.

Research has indicated that most us have very positive views of our future. When asked to project 5 years into the future most of us expect to be happy, healthy, successful and loved-up (unless we prefer to be solo flyers in which case we expect to be happy, successful, healthy singletons). It is rare for us to expect to be unwell, living in poverty/experiencing financial difficulties, aging badly (or indeed aging at all) and/or going through a bitter breakup. This belief that our future is going to be worth living is one of the things that encourages us to take care of ourselves in order to be in the best position to take advantage of/enjoy all of those wonderful things that are coming our way!

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Cat got your tongue cartoon

Cat got your tongue cartoon

cat got your tongue cartoontheastro-coach.com

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