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Beautiful cherry blossom is associated with Virgo

Who always likes to talk real fast?

Who’s friendships do not always last?

Who thinks that life should be a blast?

Gemini

How Do The Different Star Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations?

Toxic situations and people are the last thing that any of us would wish for. We all know that it is extremely unhealthy to keep such people and situations in our lives yet many of us do for far too long. How each of us handles these trying times speaks volumes and much of our response correlates with the sun signs that we are born under. While some signs are able to gently swat toxic people away, others tend to cling to them in spite of the repercussions. Take a look and see where you may fall and how you can better deal with unhealthy occurrences.

How The Water Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations

The water signs – Cancer, Scorpio and Pisces are very talented at dealing with difficult situations and toxic people because they are clear thinking, rational, analytical and flexible. Because they often take the long term view, they can see from a distance when things are not going their way and although they are lead by emotions, they are able to calmly adjust to most circumstances and are not quick to react. They will not respond to events without having first decided on a sensible course of action.

How Cancer Deals With Toxic People and Situations

Cancers can be compared to chameleons as they are ever changing—reacting one way one minute and completely different the next. Because they understand that everyone and everything evolves, they are rarely taken by surprise when people show their darker sides, and they themselves are known to be calm and peaceful one moment and use words that cut like a knife the next. On that level, they are able to appreciate the “negative” aspects of the human race as well as accept the challenges that life throws their way with grace and plenty of flair.

Ruled by the Moon, everything about this sign (and life for that matter) is about mystery and thus they will see challenging people as something to investigate and figure out. When it comes to dealing with toxic people the Cancerian has an advantage. Because they too can become difficult to handle at a moment’s notice, they can give back what they get with interest!  A Cancer will not sit idly by and allow someone to walk over them. Not vengeful per say, they will strike back when they have been wronged. If they have been badly hurt they may cower and feel distraught at how the situation has ended up but in most cases, those standing on the outside won’t see it because like the crab, they have a hard exterior that very much protects their sensitive interior (emotions and feelings).

If it is a stranger or merely someone that is an acquaintance, it won’t bother this sign as much as if the toxicity is coming from someone they deeply care about. In those cases, the pain may be felt on a deep level and though the Cancer will walk away, they are likely to feel the tinge of pain and some sorrow internally. The effects of Mr. or Ms. Toxic may also colour the Crab’s relationships in the future unfortunately.

7. The Wave Function Collapses

“You are what your deep, driving desire is.
As is your desire, so is your deed.
As is your deed, so is your destiny.”
― Brihadaranyaka Upanishad

Alan sat under a huge Bodhi tree whose leaf-strewn branches billowed gently in the early evening breeze. He watched two Langur monkeys playing a few feet away from him. He wondered if in their abandonment to the spontaneous joy of living in the moment they knew something he didn’t. He felt in his darker reveries that he’d wasted most of his life. What did he know, apart from how to meditate?

He had to smile, as even he had to admit that hadn’t worked out so well for him.

He had no skills or any work experience. How was he to survive? Would he end up a beggar or even join the ash-strewn group of Sadhu holy men, who had taken pity on him and provided him with some meagre scraps of food?

There was a Catholic missionary a few miles hence, but did he really want to confront the ghosts of the early years of his life and admit his quest had been a failure? He felt a complete emptiness and lack of purpose as never before.

Thoughts flashed across his mind of knives, poison, drowning, self-immolation, jumping from a great height, hanging from the tree that sheltered him? There would just be a little pain that would soon pass and then deliver him to the certainty of oblivion.

Was that what he really had been seeking, a conclusive escape from the world of illusion that meditation simply could not deliver? His mind turned to darker things and he considered his options. His life had no point, meaning or purpose. Maybe it was time to go.

And then she sashayed past him, casting just the hint of a smile in his direction. Dark skinned, eyes flashing the deepest amber, voluptuousness to her balletic elegant form. Seductiveness semaphoring its eternal promise, exquisitely oiled black hair long and glistening as it cascaded down her back and shoulders.

Something about her turned him back from the brink of self-destruction. Furtively, he returned her smile as she resumed her walk. Was that a subtle laughter that he heard as she disappeared around the corner?

She would bring him food and talk with him. They discussed many things, her dreams and ambitions, her desire to leave and travel. He knew that he wanted to be part of her life and to share her adventures. But not on the current terms that fate seemed to have created for him. The life of a mendicant or ascetic no longer appealed.

He did the only thing that he knew how. Sitting still in the cool evening air, he closed his eyes, relaxed, stilled his breathing and tried to empty his mind. For the first time he succeeded, his thoughts evaporated like the morning dew and his mind was a dark primordial abyss. The void, sunyatta, the matrix of imminent creation, pregnant with potential, completely empty of anything resembling rational thought or the yattering of the monkey mind.

And so it began.

At first it was indistinguishable from the total blackness, just a sensation. Then microscopic points of light began to appear like stars in a distant galaxy. As each speck of luminescence revealed itself, it pulsated and started to reflect the light of its companions until all of them mirrored and amplified each other, like a series of diamonds linked together and vibrating in a shimmering web of the purest platinum.

And in this moment of total connectedness Alan found enlightenment and his future, his joy and salvation. To say that things moved quickly in accordance with his will and desire would merely be the blueprint of what really happened.

Now she was by his side, assisting him, encouraging him, helping to make those connections; the technicians, the funding, the chutzpah, the attitude that opened doors that others would find impregnable. As if this was the moment for which he had been preparing all his life. Everything unfolded naturally and with ease, just as a red carpet unfurls beneath the gracefully shod feet of the feted A-lister celebrity at a movie premiere at Cannes.

The-Indra-Connect celebrated its fifth trading year and the new and buzziest social network was the hottest start-up on the India tech scene. People flocked to join it to connect with each and its followers were wealthy, loyal and committed.

Some pundits likened it to a cult and compared Alan, its CEO, with a guru. Of such scurrilous comparisons, we choose to speak no further.

By now Alan was wealthy beyond his dreams and had married the girl whose name had inspired the title of this phenomenal new social network. The merchandising was going exceptionally well, everyone was wearing the t-shirts and using The-Indra-Connect to make their lifestyle, friendship, brand and financial choices. Some of the previous merchandise items were reaching stratospheric prices on online auction sites as every newcomer wanted to be part of its history and not appear to be a disciple-come-lately.

What more could Alan desire? He’d discovered who he was and what he wanted, he was happier than he could have imagined with his wife Indra and their twelve children, but there was still an emptiness, something missing.

“Conference call from China, the Richmond Corporation would like to discuss a potential partnership,” said his secretary.

Abstractedly, Alan launched the video conferencing software on his computer. How many of these offers did he receive on a daily basis? The ennui hit him yet again and he yearned for something else in his life. Once more, he was sheltering under the Bodhi tree or in the Catholic school awaiting the tender ministrations of the Jesuits, wondering what path he should choose.

He smiled as he realised he’d found the final piece in the jigsaw of his life.

The man in Shanghai beamed bonhomie, his face was still bronzed and his golden locks, now accented with natural silver, cascaded down his shoulders. His expression was animated, his piercing blue eyes alive with a keen penetrating intelligence.

He wore a double-breasted navy blue pin striped bespoke suit, button down collared white shirt and a crimson silk tie. Time had obviously put itself out for him. He sat in front of a huge stature of an orange dragon, its vast scaly wings reflecting on the wall behind that consisted of a huge aquarium resplendent with multi-coloured exotic fish.

“How’s that Enlightenment Gig working out for you?”

Thus spake Ram Khatt, with the unmistakable glint in his eye and smile dancing on his sensuous lips.

This is a work of fiction. Names, characters, places and incidents either are products of the author’s imagination or are used fictitiously. Any resemblance to actual events or locales or persons, living or dead, is entirely coincidental.

No Star Sign or post associated with this cartoon. Hope you enjoy it!

A slightly different blog post today as I’ve decided to take a quick look at which of the Seven Deadly Sins each Sun Sign is most and least likely to commit.

Currently the seven deadly sins are as follows:

Lust

Greed

Gluttony

Sloth

Envy

Pride

Wrath

During the 4^th century misery or despondency was considered to be one of the 7 deadlies (as outlined by Evagrius Ponticus a 4^th century monk) so I’ve resurrected this one as bonus sin. Dejection as a sin was replaced by sloth – the two possibly being related in terms of a person who was too down and dejected to get out of bed was seen as being idle.

Aries

Most Likely Sin

Ruled by Mars and, at your worst fuelled by aggression, I’d have to assign Wrath as the sin that you are most likely to commit. Though the Sign on the Ram is no stranger to Lust either.

Least Likely Sin

You don’t do Sloth nor are you likely to be miserable or despondent. You usually have a remarkable talent for bouncing back from setbacks.

Taurus

Most Likely Sin

This would be Gluttony for many of you, I’m afraid.

Least Likely Sin

Envy – you don’t envy anybody anything. If somebody else has something you want you use your desire for that thing to motivate you to take the actions needed to get it.

Gemini

Most Likely Sin

A tricky one this. Originally there was a vice associated with a lying tongue that would suit Gemini’s gossipy nature, however sticking with the modern deadlies I’d probably go for Wrath as you can have an evil temper at times.

Least Likely Sin

Sloth – you are far too active to be slothful

Cancer

Most Likely Sin

This is where I make use of our 8^th deadly tristitia (despair or despondency) because Cancerians can have a tendency to get very, very down indeed.

Least Likely Sin

Wrath – you can be moody but you rarely have epic rages!

Leo

Most Likely Sin

Pride plus vanity – sins fit for a monarch.

Least Likely Sin

Envy – why would you envy others when you’re so much better than them, you wonder.

Virgo

Most Likely Sin

Pride. You’re proud of your detached, analytical and reasonable approach to life. ‘Why can’t the other sign’s keep a grip on their emotions and why are so many of them such slobs?’, you wonder.

Least Likely Sin

Sloth. Lazy people are an anathema to you, so why would you allow yourself to become one?

Libra

Most Likely Sin

Pride or rather vanity – you know you’re the most gorgeous person around. You also love getting other people to do your work for you, don’t you, so I’ll put sloth as well.

Least Likely Sin

Wrath – make love not war is your motto.

Scorpio

Most Likely Sin

You’ll commit all of them if you’ve decided to pursue being a sinner with your usual determination. In fact you might even invent a new hyper-sin where commit them all at the same time!

Least Likely Sin

You can be a saint or a sinner and will pursue either calling with equal vigour. If you’re feeling saintly you’ll ensure that you don’t commit any of the seven deadlies

Sagittarius

You’re larger than life and consume food with gusto, so I’ll put you down for gluttony with a side helping of greed.

Least Likely Sin

Wrath – you don’t really get angry. You don’t hold grudges. You’re more of a forgive and forget type of person really. You don’t do our 8th deadly tristitia (despair or despondency)either.

Capricorn

Most Likely Sin

Lust – lust for status, money, possessions, power and just plain lust when the mood takes you!

Least Likely Sin

Sloth – ‘Chance would be a fine thing’, I hear you say, ‘I’ve got far too much to do!’

Aquarius

Most Likely Sin

Pride – nobody is as clever, unique, forward thinking and humanitarian as you, are they?

Least Likely Sin

Envy.

Pisces

Most Likely Sin

This is where I make use of our 8th deadly tristitia (despair or despondency) again because Pisces can have a tendency to get very, very down indeed. Even worse than, cancer, in fact.

Least Likely Sin

Wrath. You get upset and you get deeply hurt but you don’t do explosive bouts of rage.

How Do The Different Star Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations?

Toxic situations and people are the last thing that any of us would wish for. We all know that it is extremely unhealthy to keep such people and situations in our lives yet many of us do for far too long. How each of us handles these trying times speaks volumes and much of our response correlates with the sun signs that we are born under. While some signs are able to gently swat toxic people away, others tend to cling to them in spite of the repercussions. Take a look and see where you may fall and how you can better deal with unhealthy occurrences.

How The Fire Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations

Fire signs are strong headed people who are also adventurous, stubborn, passionate and at times, temperamental.  They are interesting in that they can be toxic or the victims of toxicity. I think that we all know what the fire signs are like when they’re being toxic but when these signs are on the receiving end of toxicity, all bets are off and their reactions may surprise you.

How Sagittarius Deals With Toxic People & Situations

Sagittarius are lovers who are free spirited and loathe feeling trapped or fenced in. Because they are always on the go and adventurous, they will meet and greet lots of different kinds of people and eventually may happen upon someone that brings toxicity to their lives. Not the strongest of the signs, their generosity and big hearts can get in the way of their logic and wisdom but their willingness to seek beautiful, peaceful things in life won’t keep them in this situation for long.

They are fiercely independent and thus won’t feel the need to stay in a situation that is not fruitful and this will save those born under this sign from remaining in any situation that is unpleasant.  The Sag is known for their direct communication (some might say lack of tact!), and they will be very vocal when they feel they are being used and abused. They will of course, be eager to listen to reason and will even let those who are psychic vampires and/or drama queens the opportunity to put their point of view across, but if the answers are not satisfactory as far as the Sag is concerned, they will simply abandon the situation in search of something more meaningful.

It may be that because the Sagittarius truly believes that everything and anything is possible, they will try their best to get the relationship back on track, but their patience will run thin once they see that a less high maintenance partner is a more attractive option. When confronted with sticky, impossible situations they are not the type to stick around if there is no compelling reason to do so even if they first believed that it was their “dream date”, “soul mate” or “perfect situation.”

How Do The Different Star Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations?

Toxic situations and people are the last thing that any of us would wish for. We all know that it is extremely unhealthy to keep such people and situations in our lives yet many of us do for far too long. How each of us handles these trying times speaks volumes and much of our response correlates with the sun signs that we are born under. While some signs are able to gently swat toxic people away, others tend to cling to them in spite of the repercussions. Take a look and see where you may fall and how you can better deal with unhealthy occurrences.

How The Fire Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations

Fire signs are strong headed people who are also adventurous, stubborn, passionate and at times, temperamental.  They are interesting in that they can be toxic or the victims of toxicity. I think that we all know what the fire signs are like when they’re being toxic but when these signs are on the receiving end of toxicity, all bets are off and their reactions may surprise you.

How Leo Deals With Toxic People & Situations

For the Leo when the toxicity comes in the form of a romantic relationship, such situations can become hairy because love trumps all else for this sign. They are deeply committed once they find a mate and therefore are willing to go to the ends of the earth trying to salvage the relationship. This sign also uses humor and makes light of a lot of bad situations, so when these situations become unhealthy, they will not see how bad things have got, initially.

However, their devotion will only reach so far and if they are crossed, they are not likely to forgive and forget. The key to helping a Leo friend or loved one escape a toxic lover is to get them to break free of their commitment and actually admit defeat in situations and with people who aren’t good for them. Once this happens, they can break the ties without a second thought and their humor and great sense of self will see them through the rockiest of times. Leos are controlled by their egos, so admitting that they made a poor judgment call in the first place where a person or situation is concerned will be a tough pill to swallow and can cause them to not fully relinquish a less than stellar relationship. Their ego may force them to stick with it for much too long simply because they don’t want to admit to themselves that they can’t make something work.

The proud, strong Leo does not want to be alone and that fear will also keep them attached and clinging on to something or someone because it is easier to deal with a toxic situation than letting it go and risk being solo. They also don’t do well with change in general which means they may put up with a lot more than they really should for a period of time—at least until they make new, replacement connections and feel secure in those.

How Do The Different Star Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations?

Toxic situations and people are the last thing that any of us would wish for. We all know that it is extremely unhealthy to keep such people and situations in our lives yet many of us do for far too long. How each of us handles these trying times speaks volumes and much of our response correlates with the sun signs that we are born under. While some signs are able to gently swat toxic people away, others tend to cling to them in spite of the repercussions. Take a look and see where you may fall and how you can better deal with unhealthy occurrences.

How The Fire Signs Deal With Toxic People & Situations

Fire signs are strong headed people who are also adventurous, stubborn, passionate and at times, temperamental.  They are interesting in that they can be toxic or the victims of toxicity. I think that we all know what the fire signs are like when they’re being toxic but when these signs are on the receiving end of toxicity, all bets are off and their reactions may surprise you.

How Aries Deals With Toxic People & Situations

An Aries will charge full steam ahead where others wouldn’t dream of venturing, which means that they can find themselves careering into toxic situations without thinking ahead. Luckily for headstrong Rams  toxic relationships and situations are more or less their forte and they usually handle getting out of them very well indeed . And that is fortunate for those under this sign as they will likely come across such people and situations time and again because their electric personality draws the dramatic types in hook, line and sinker. A strong, vibrant fire sign like Aries does have a habit of attracting needy folk.

This sign likes people to play by the rules that they set and when the other party refuses to play their allotted role trouble brews.  You would think that this would be enough to make Aries call an immediate halt to proceedings but this does not always happen. Why? Well. The real issue here is that the Aries detests losing and thus will sometimes hang on to toxic people and their baggage just to get the final word or to win, even if it kills their spirit in the process. And on some level, since the Aries loves (almost in an addictive way) a challenge, those who are toxic in a mysterious or manipulative way can hold onto an Aries for a long time.

Because the Aries is so impulsive and they jump in without thinking things through it often happens that they are confronted with situations and people that aren’t necessarily good for them. This is a sign that, although dynamic and smart, can also be naïve and thus can find themselves mired in a toxic relationship when it’s far too late to walk away unscathed. However, Aries usually does escape, although often with some damage sustained in the process.

Thankfully, this sign also bounces back very quickly, so once they have decided that enough is enough, they can swiftly ditch the toxicity and move on. A naturally exuberant and forward looking Sign,  they won’t be moping once they make that decision. In fact they will feel a sense of liberation and relief that will be obvious to one and all.

Everyone needs a little validation from time to time; after all this is how we know that we are on track and having someone other than yourself telling you that you are wonderful, successful, attractive and otherwise amazing, is a great boost to your ego. The level to which each individual needs and seeks validation and affirmation varies greatly and within the astrological realm, some signs need validation to be consistent and unwavering, while others think so highly of themselves already that they seek validation sporadically. So where does your sign fall on the validation scale and how do you look to get your validation needs met? Take a look—the results may surprise you!

What Gemini Needs To Feel Validated

To validate a Gemini you will need to collect your thoughts so that you can tell them in a precise and clear way what you feel is so amazing about them. They are very intelligent people who are also quick witted and investigative. For the Gemini that needs and seeks validation, they will simply inquire about how you view them and ask probing questions to find out where their flaws are and how to correct them.

This sign is engrossed in their relationships and life-long learners so they will receive validation every time you show interest in what they are sharing with you but can also obtain it from what you are teaching them. If you have hung around long enough to engage in intelligent conversation, you have validated your Gemini friend or lover. If they need more information or clarity as to how you feel about them, there are no worries. They will bluntly ask you to explain further.