Flirting Death Cartoon

Flirting Death Cartoon

Flirting Death Cartoon

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FLUSH: Pump and Dump, Which Zodiac Signs Go For One Night Stands?

Flush: Pump and Dump, Which Zodiac Signs Go For One Night Stands?

To find out which Zodiac signs go for one night stands click on the links below:

Pump and Dump: Does Aries go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Taurus go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Gemini go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Cancer go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Leo go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Virgo go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Libra go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Scorpio go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Sagittarius go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Capricorn go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Aquarius go for one night stands?

Pump and Dump: Does Pisces go for one night stands?

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ToXiC Wetware 3 of 3

ToXiC Wetware 3 of 3

They literally exhibit the wetware concept. This doesn’t refer to a senile and incontinent Toxic’s undergarments, but the idea that human brain cells or thought processes can be regarded as analogous to a computer system.

These subroutines are one of the key ways to identify a Toxic and help you understand how to deal with them.

Some Toxics will be more difficult to pin down, at least initially, as they are familiar with the concept and use it to their own advantage, cleverly covering their tracks. The highly evolved Meta-Toxic, or Dark Triad type, will have developed a series of behaviours for every context and occasion. Their brain operates more like a quantum computer than a serial processor. They can fine-tune their thoughts and actions, recalibrating their neurons and synaptic firing patterns, depending on who or what they want to be, in order to achieve whatever gratifies them at the time.

Fortunately Meta-Toxics are rare and if you come across one, they may only reveal themselves gradually. Other Toxics are a lot more obvious and their programming quickly reveals itself. The way they articulate their thoughts betrays them, giving you the opportunity to identify and assess their threat levels. Some are tedious background noise and can be eliminated by avoiding or ignoring them. Others are more persistent and invasive, and need to be deal with by the Toxic Termination Process (TTP), outlined elsewhere on this site.

The computer analogy is a useful method to identify and analyse the Toxic, and once you’re used to using it, you can start to predict certain behavioural patterns. Forewarned is forearmed when dealing with Toxics. You don’t want them in your life, so use any information you can in order to get rid of them.

As you watch Ayesha sitting patiently by the window, observing a robin flitting around in the branches of a silver birch tree, you notice how attentive she is, how alive in the moment. You reflect how satisfying it must be to live this way, and resolve to be more mindful. Your thoughts are serene and unfettered by any rumination on the dead past or unborn future. Your deep calm program has just been upgraded to the latest version and is running smoothly and bug free. Your cat, as usual, has taught you an invaluable lesson.

Which she doubtless is well aware of, and will expect the appropriate rewards at dinner time.

To find out more about dealing with a toxic person take a look at the  How To Deal With ToXiCs Combat Manual ebook, which is an upgraded, harder hitting and expanded version of the How To Deal With A Toxic Person ebook. Click on the links to find out more and get your free samples.

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ToXiC Wetware Part 2 of 3

ToXiC Wetware Part 2 of 3

If you’re astute, you notice that certain people around you prefer you to remain the same and feel uncomfortable with any changes that you make. They say and do things that makes it obvious that they’re trying to reinforce who they think or what they want you to be, not what you wish to change into.

However, you decide to persist, perhaps even spurred on by their recalcitrance. So, that starts to take care of the physical side of things, though you also want to give your brain a further workout and notice how repetitive some of your thinking has become over the years. This starts to annoy you – you don’t like the idea of being predictable, as you’ve bought into the idea of free will – so you begin to question why you revert back to consistently monotonous modes of thinking. You might start to hunt those thoughts down to their origins far back in the past and examine if they’re relevant anymore.

If they’re not, why entertain them? It’s easy to get rid of old, redundant thoughts and the neural patterns associated with them – your brain will kill them off by synaptic pruning if you do and think different things, thus you have the ability to reprogram it at both a physical and logical level. The physical structure of the brain is altered by sustained compassion meditation, for example, amongst many other techniques.

You can shake it all about by doing different things, challenging yourself and so on. Meditation and mindfulness will enable you to observe and categorise your thoughts in a non-judgmental way.

If you do this, you’ll soon notice how repetitive thoughts and behaviour can be, and how, you could see your brain as a computer, being run by a series of programs (thoughts) roughly controlled by the operating system of your mind. Fuzzy logic is your friend here. If you like the analogy, you might consider debugging your source code, refreshing or updating the operating system and recalibrating the way your brain works by practicing DIY neuroplasticity, also covered on this site.

If you suffer the misfortune to have a number of toxic people (Toxics) in your life, you’ll notice how certain subroutines are endemic traits and are easily triggered in them. Toxic people are also a form of malware – they try to embed themselves into the fabric of your life and that of other people you hang out with, and are consistently bad for all parties.

No matter how paltry their achievements, a Necrotic Narcissist will brag on about the most trivial thing they’ve done, hyping it into something extraordinary. Your eyes glaze over when they hatch their vain empires, awaiting validation and endorsement for things that most people wouldn’t give a second thought to. ‘Look at me, me, me, you must listen to what I have to say, aren’t I awesome for doing this,’ seems to be the instruction manual they’ve downloaded into their minds.

Garbage in, garbage out, you think wryly.

Should you know a Professional Victim, you’ll realise that anything will provoke the ‘how unfair the world has been to me’ trope, wherein the Toxic relates the sorry saga of their tragic life and how everything and everyone is against them. This thought runs around their mind like a retarded gerbil on a treadmill. The ballad of perpetual rejection permeates their psyche and will be articulated at the least provocation.

Buy them a drink and watch them recall significant events in their life that shaped not only their victimhood, but also their sense of entitlement, in that they must be listened to and validated. After all, nobody has suffered as much, or had it as hard as they have. Therefore you are expected to listen to them intently, be supportive at the appropriate juncture, and express deep sympathy and empathy as the weary narrative unfurls.

Whereas you might initially have felt a degree of compassion, this eventually mutates into indifference or even contempt, as you cannot understand why this person is incapable of even beginning to try to resolve their frequently articulated issues. They understand all this stuff, right, and where there’s a problem, there’s usually a solution, which is why we have Google.  This is assuming, of course, that they haven’t made their entire backstory up in order to get sympathy, attention and validation, therefore giving them some spotlight and a feeling of importance and entitlement.

Aggression prone Volatile Volcanoes need little encouragement to unleash their inherent anger and to potential flare up. They’re always looking out for being dissed and actively seek opportunities to turn into Toxzilla and run amock. If they have a partner, this person’s job will be to spot when things are likely to turn frenetic and try to exercise a civilizing influence. Sometimes this works, more often not, as the Toxic’s louring presence and body language will amply demonstrate. Don’t spill their pint – things will escalate.

All these Toxics (and the other variants of the Noxious Nine Toxic Types) will habitually run and act upon a series of programs that define them as individuals. They’re so used to being controlled by their aberrant, buggy software, that they do this instinctively and automatically. They can’t countenance any alternative to the way they think and behave as it seems to pay off for them, and has done so for many years – it’s embedded into their psyche and neurons. Even if they had any real degree of self-awareness, it’s unlikely that they would perceive any need to change, unless a significant life-changing event stimulates a need for personal transformation.

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Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Flower Photo – Witch Hazel Photo

Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Zodiac Sign Flower Photo – Aries Flower Photo – Witch Hazel Photo

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Witch hazel is associated with Aries.

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ToXiC Wetware Part 1 of 3

ToXiC Wetware Part 1 of 3

Imagine you are fortunate enough to be given a Bengal kitten, a top-flight expensive feline with an illustrious pedigree and exceptional rosettes.

You name her Ayesha, after ‘she who must be obeyed’ in the Rider-Haggard novel, to denote her high status and haughty demeanour. As she’s settling in, exploring and trashing your dojo in a typically kittenish way, you have a number of choices to make regarding her welfare.

Should you have her neutered?

You consider the pros and cons. Neutering would change her feistiness a bit, maybe, and cost you money. You also have an ethical concern about animals remaining intact as nature evolved them. On the other hand, if you don’t, whenever she’s in the mood she’ll be slutting around all the local testicularly intact tomcats, ordering them into a disorderly, horny and noisy rabble of a queue in order to commence the kitten production process.

You decide to leave well alone and see what happens.

As your life progresses with Ayesha, you’ll get into a certain routine and rhythm. There’ll be the ritual purification of the litter tray every morning and evening. You’ll be selecting the best quality foods (that she’ll scarf happily one day and regally reject the next), and removing dead birds or rodents that are brought in as gifts. You’ll be stroking or grooming her when she demands it, and trying to work out what you’ve done wrong when she ignores you, or sometimes treats you as less than the dirt beneath her toes.

You’ll notice certain things she does. One moment she’s sitting peacefully in a contemplative manner, and then follows a languid stretch, succeeded by a vigorous and noisy cleaning of herself. She’ll follow you around the house, decide that she’s going to sleep on your bed, observe you when you are on the toilet, and so on. These things become common and relatively predictable. Her behaviour assumes a set point as you get to know her, and you’ll be able to guess most, but not all, of her behavioural activities and inclinations.

You may start to observe some of these actions as robotic or automatic, and think that maybe the cat is running a series of programs or subroutines in her brain. ‘Aha, there’s the self-cleaning subroutine,’ you think as Ayesha cleans her mucky paws (or worse) on your freshly laundered pillow.

Of course there’ll always be something she does that comes leftfield and confounds you. Say, dragging the occasional feral tomcat in when the vicar’s come round for afternoon coffee, sherry and buttered teacakes, then unceremoniously booting him (cat, not vicar) out five minutes later when her rumbunctious and indelicately noisy amour has concluded.

Later on, as you imbibe an alcoholic libation, you might recall catching yourself unquestioningly performing a certain action over and over again, and apply the same observation.

You might also habitually think the same things regularly and see these as subroutines that your brain is running to make things easier for you and to conserve energy. The brain uses a lot of energy (about twenty percent of what your body consumes) so clearly will take short cuts to maximise and conserve this – it’s a highly efficient, or inherently lazy device, depending on your point of view. You also develop a comfort factor by doing the same things and entertaining the same thoughts over and over again. Soon something becomes a routine as similar as Ayesha’s tendency to sharpen her claws on the silk curtains when you least want her to.

Now, whereas doing and thinking similar things on a regular basis enables you to stay within your comfort zone, it can also end up consigning you to a somewhat dull life wherein your brain goes into hibernation most of the time. It’s also possible that this mindset facilitates you tolerating people that really have no reason to be in your life, other than to annoy or undermine you.

They’re familiar, right, though you’re also aware that familiarity breeds contempt.

You might observe how quickly time seems to be passing, and that you appear to be doing the same things day after day. This begins to concern you as you feel that you’re living on autopilot, so you decide to make a few changes to slow down your perception of time by learning and doing new things, like meeting different people, travelling, learning a language (linguistic or programming), getting bored playing brain games and so on.

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FLUSH: Zodiac Detox – How The Different Star Signs Get Rid Of A Toxic Person

Zodiac Detox – How The different Star Signs Get Rid Of A Toxic Person

Woman Dumping Man In Bin Cartoon

Click on the links below to find out how your star sign gets rid of toxic people

Aries

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Gemini

Cancer

Leo

Virgo

Libra

Scorpio

Sagittarius

Capricorn

Aquarius

Pisces

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How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC – Dealing with ToXiC Discharge Part 2 of 2

How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC – Dealing with ToXiC Discharge Part 2 of 2

Relax and close your eyes (clearly you shouldn’t try this whilst driving or engaging in any other activity that demands your full attention). You begin by visualising the Toxic; a large caricatured image of their face is a good starting point. Position this on the right hand side of your mental screen. The image should be as big and vivid as you can make it – think Mount Rushmore style. Have fun and let your imagination off the leash. Visualise every blemish on their face, large oily open pores, any acne or pockmarks, spots and a constellation of blackheads. Heighten it up by thinking of their unwashed greasy hair.

Engage every sensation – smell their rank breath, shudder at their mung infested green teeth. Gross out at their yellow stained at one stage white underwear that jovially proclaims ‘round the corner chocolate’s made’. Wince at their body odour and perpetual flatulence and imagine them going off on one of their invariably noisy and meaningless rants. Make them as disgusting and repellent as you possibly can.

Hold onto this picture for a little while – you can hype it up and make it quite comedic, like a Steve Bell or Gerald Scarfe cartoon on acid. Once the image is at its most vivid, switch it to the left of your mental screen and shrink it. Imagine a balloon being pierced. This should be done in nanoseconds, faster even than an executive raiding the mini bar and accessing the porn channel in a hotel room. The image of the Toxic incubus can then be slipped into an envelope and shredded, secured in a little box and buried in wet concrete at a construction site, or you can see it dissolve into a series of petals, cherry blossom if you like, that fall onto a rapidly flowing stream and poetically disappear forever. This exercise neutralises the Toxic by showing them in all their repellent glory before you terminate them for good via TTP.

Eventually your higher self might triumph and you may experience feelings of compassion and tenderness towards the Toxic. This is fine and noble and will make you feel good and just a little bit in awe of your newly developed qualities of mercy and forgiveness. Definitely time to crack open the champagne and fill your best lead crystal flutes. However, don’t be inspired to re-engage with the Toxic as everything will just kick off again and your recently found equanimity may find itself strained beyond endurance. The possibility exists that the Toxic may have seen the light and changed for the better, but that’s most unlikely, and you really don’t want to put that to the test, do you?

What you are seeking to avoid are emotions that are any more extreme than these and engage you proactively and experientially. Hatred is understandable, and you may experience a lot of this short term, but it is counterproductive to pursue continuously and for an extended period of time. Unless you get off on hating people and it gives you a sense of elation of course, in which case you may be Toxic yourself.

Schopenhauer said that hatred is a matter of the heart and contempt a matter of the head. Take your choice of what works for you. But ultimately Olympian detachment is your friend here and will be the natural choice as things move on and memories and emotions fade as the Toxic becomes more and more distant.

In summary, you want yourself and those you care about to thrive and flourish and memories of the Toxic to wither and perish. It’s at this stage that you are totally free of them, and the sooner you can make this happen, clearly the better.

To find out more about how to deal with a toxic person checkout my How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC book . Click on the link to find out more and get your free sample.

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How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC – Dealing with ToXiC Discharge Part 1 of 2

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How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC – Dealing with ToXiC Discharge Part 1 of 2

Once you have discharged the Toxic from your life, how should you deal with any emotional fallout?

By this, I’m referring to how you feel about the recent Termination Process (TTP) and the extent to which thoughts relating to the Toxic appear in your mind. We’re not discussing the emotions of the recently terminated Toxic – these are their problem and not yours, therefore of no relevance to you whatsoever. It’s assumed here that TTP has been successful and that the Toxic has been effectively and permanently shuffled off from the physical dynamic of your life.

It you are still planning or undertaking TTP, however, this article will also be valuable as it helps prime your mind and plan for how you deal with any psychological fallout when the Toxic has been expelled.

It’s quite likely that some thoughts about the Toxic will flit through your mind post TTP. If the Toxic has been annoyingly and palpably present in your life for some time spreading their bile and negativity, there may be some neural persistence as the memories of them shuffle around. If we hang out with the neuroscience for a little, the more you think about something for an extended period of time, the greater the likelihood it becomes part of your reality, your internal landscape of the psyche. Neurons that fire together wire together, which means there can be a problem of persistence. Also, if the termination process has been something of a heroic struggle with many tears and tantrums involved down the line, there may well be some emotional residue on your own part to deal with. Being kind to yourself is a great place to start here and highly recommended.

All this is entirely natural and not a matter to weigh too heavily with you in the long term. Consider that some pain is a necessary part of personal growth. We have thousands of thoughts per day and recent and traumatic events will invariably repeat and replay themselves for a while. You may undergo periods of rumination where you turn the events over and experience extreme anger and near-berserker rage. Over time, these feelings will pass as you recognise them for what they are – the rapidly fading ghosts of a dynamic that you have terminated by your own ruthless planning and execution and by the steely and effective character that you’ve developed as part of TTP. Newly toughened up, you’re good to go and face whatever subsequent challenges life cooks up for you. And there are a number of techniques you can use to accelerate the process – read NeuroToxic for a quick précis.

Leaning how the process is likely to play out equips you to deal with it more effectively. Unless your mind is naturally an oasis of Cistercian clam, Buddhist non-attachment, Stoic acceptance or Taoist ‘so what?’ there will be flashes of anger, bitterness and resentment. You’ll be thinking of the time you wasted on the Toxic and the maelstrom of negativity that they unleashed upon your life and probably spilled out into the lives of those you care for.

There may be much activity in the emotion-oriented limbic system (see Fenris and Lupus). Strong amygdala spawned emotions of sheer intense hatred and loathing may dance along with colder prefrontal cortex thoughts of revenge and vendetta, possibly involving the unleashing of physical and psychological pain on the Toxic for all they’ve done to you. At times you may feel elated as you think about them suffering, especially if you imagine having them restrained in your power with an arsenal of DIY kit, power tools and a chainsaw at your disposal.

This is a natural part of the Post Toxic Termination Process (PTTP) and can be cathartic and energising. It’s healthy, at least in the short term, to unleash and express your feelings and engage in a bit of healthy negative intention and phantasy. You can imagine getting some payback on the Toxic. But let it play, for as long as you feel the need to entertain it, in the theatre of your mind only and make sure you keep it there.

Making plans for revenge and enacting them in the physical world is counterproductive as it mires you in the past and you may be tempted to do something stupid and illegal, the consequences of which you might not easily evade. Which gives the Toxic power that they do not deserve – by wasting your precious time on them, you are allowing and encouraging them to feed on your energy and hijack a load of fun and interesting things you could be doing instead.

Predictably and oddly enough, this is the sort of thing they crave, as any attention, even if it makes them look stupid, needy, pathetic and ridiculous, is better than the cold grey emptiness of none. As stated elsewhere in this book, the Toxic is likely to be experiencing a bad time due to their own tendency to ruminate and the negative effect of the production of cortisol. So you might as well move on and leave them to get on with it.

Ideally, you want to forget them and act as if they never existed. The final part of TTP is the burial phase, where they are to all effects dead to you. You don’t want to dig them up Burke and Hare style and resurrect them, right? So the mood to ideally cultivate is one of healthy detachment. If you think about them, just see the thought for what it is, one of the many thoughts you have each day, none of which truly define you. Thinking about the Toxic is of no more consequence than wondering what to have for dinner or which celebrity is fornicating with another this week. You can start to switch to more engaging and empowering thoughts, being mindful of the present and enjoying your new-found freedom and the company of those you care about.

If detachment isn’t quite your thing, at least at the moment, try cultivating healthy indifference – the Toxic is completely irrelevant to you and deserves no emotional feedback looping whatsoever. To you they are a nonentity, immaterial and irrelevant. You can permit yourself the odd smug smile once this way of thinking becomes the norm, and in time you’ll forget them completely. Which ideally, is what you want to do.

The other approach is that of pure cold-hearted contempt – cultivate a lofty indifference to someone who is completely and utterly beneath you. You treat the thought of them with the same disdain you might a piece of phlegm on the street. You raise an eyebrow as you wonder why you ever spent any time on them. Your hostile indifference or splendid isolation towards them becomes a way of life, with a sense of relief that this person has long departed as a result of your carefully planned and executed strategy. Once again the Toxic is put in their rightful place in your mind, and very soon out of it.

Another option is humour. Laughter is incredibly healthy for you at a physical and neurological level and helps you position the Toxic and their activities into the appropriate context. Finding amusing aspects of their personality defects, interaction and behaviour is not only valuable during TTP but also in the aftermath. Instead of feeling anger and hate, just laugh at them. Imagine them doing something they would find embarrassing to share with others, such as having sex (some Toxics do, unfortunately, and not just with themselves – they may even breed), sitting on the toilet or vomiting after too much drink, (maybe all three at the same time, if you want to go surreal and slightly dodgy).

Start off with a smile, go for the grimace accompanied by tittering and then follow on with a full throttle belly laugh – the type of thing that comes naturally when hearing a good dirty joke. This helps diminish the impact of the Toxic and also adds a bit of context and clarity. It’s easy to visualise the emotionally incontinent self-justifying histrionics of the Necrotic Narcissist, for example. These types are pompous and entertain delusions of adequacy and self-importance. The last thing they want is to be called on such self-deceptions – public shaming and humiliation is one of the things they fear the most. If you want to be wicked, think about how their long-suffering partner may be working all hours to avoid them, scouring Tinder for a series of partners for short-term sensual satisfaction, or even hooking up with someone else permanently and planning to leave them.

If you really want to get hardcore, entertain feelings of disgust and loathing. The behaviour of some Toxics is so vile and reprehensible that you might feel that they’ve foregone their right to be part of polite company, especially yours. You might experience the type of revulsion you would feel towards a piece of roadkill that’s squirming with bloated wriggling maggots on a hot summer afternoon. These feelings should only be entertained on a temporary basis and not dwelled upon. What you are doing is a form of aversion therapy, in which you associate them with something repellent, disgusting and vile, the sort of thing that normal people avoid at all opportunities.

This can be combined with the mental screen, a psychological technique for reducing the importance of the Toxic in your mind.

Intrigued? Find out how on Tuesday.

To find out more about how to deal with a toxic person checkout my How To Deal With People Who Are ToXiC book . Click on the link to find out more and get your free sample.

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